Friday, July 3, 2009

Punctionality on the Journey

Actually, TAHIRA, everyone is reasonable.

They just have their own reasons.

And usually it's worth trying to learn what they are to maximize chances of a full-blown, 60's style, psychedelic lovefest. Which is always a good thing.

Groovy you,
The Universe

The above message is from Notes from the Universe. "Everyone is reasonable they just have their own reasons." Hmmmmm.

When I read this message, the first thing I thought was how unreasonable I think it is to be chronically late. As a person who prides herself on being on time, I find people who are habitually late very annoying.

Do they have their own reasons for being late? Absolutely!

Is it worth trying to learn what those reasons are to maximize chances of a fully blown, 60's style, psychedelic lovefest? My ego says, "Hell no!"

My spirit is having a hard time getting into the conversation.

Functionality is about integrity for me. Of course, each of us may fall short on occasion, but when you have a reputation for rarely being on time that begs me to ask, "Whatsup with that?"

Are you seeking attention? Does it stem from some deep-root desire to self-sabotage?

For me, to honor your word is to be honored in this world. Now I will admit that I can be a bit obsessive about being on time. I also know that any obsession is unhealthy.

My punctuality obsession stems from my childhood. (Most obsession start there ;-) My mother demanded it. My father dismissed it.

The result: I brooded and pouted when my mother insisted on me being on time. I brooded and pouted when my father was rarely on time.

Am I missing out on some groovy experience by not allowing others to continually make me wait?

I read somewhere once, that when you are waiting you should see it as an opportunity to practice patience. Unfortunately, patience is another character flaw of mine.


Anonymous said...

As someone who is rarely late, I say "To Hell with people who are habitually late. I will accept no excuses. If I really don't need you with me, I will leave your a--. Lateness is a control issue. I have a child who was always late, When she did arrive, she would have this smirk on her face. Like, oh were you waiting long? I stopped going anywhere with her, if I could help it. She's better now, maybe she's happier in her life. Anyway, just wanted to say, I refuse to make excuses for those miserablw people who are always late.

Anonymous said...

I think it's one thing to pride yourself on being on time and congratulate you for having a high standard in that area of your life. However, I think EGO issues come into play when the on-timer has such an intolerance for others who may or may not have different guiding factors in their lives.

For example, some people pride themselves on their own intuition. Sometimes intuition says, "slow down, take your time today, make a stop on the way, etc". For me personally, if no one is being hurt or put in harms way by a little lateness, I'm not annoyed at all. In fact, I find myself awaiting a story from the late comer that is often exciting and fun to listen to.

I hope the chronic on-timer realizes that he/she are surrendering their joy and appreciation in exchange for frustration and annoyance in those moments when they begin to judge and belittle the late-comer. I would question who's miserable in this situation...


A. Lil Late

T. Dorsey said...

@A. Lil Late: That's a fresh perspective.